The main feature of any type of relationship violence is the use of the 'coercive control' or tactics of abuse within the relationship. Coercive control may look different from relationship to relationship. The reason someone uses this behaviour is to gain power and control within the relationship and over their loved one. For the person on the receiving end of this abusive behaviour, it can be very confusing and can feel shameful; they may still love the person using abusive behaviour and be unsure how to respond - they often just want the abuse to stop.
What we know from research is that LGBTIQ+ people are often unaware they are experiencing violence in their relationships, and they may delay seeking help. They often don't know where to find help and mistrust police services for fear of being judged - or worse, not being believed.
However, there are many incredible, supportive services run by community, for community. We would encourage anyone at risk of intimate partner or family violence to reach out for support by checking the available resources listed under the 'Who Can Help' tab on this page.